Living in my early to mid 20s, I could say that it really test my identity and my mental health. To be honest, I never thought that I’ll be celebrating my 28th birthday happily sharing my life to others.
I’ve been through a lot for the past few years while exploring who I really was and who I want to be. I’ve been looking for answers deep inside me to know what profession or job do I really want and what is my real identity is. Then at 25, I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder, and that is when I really thought that my life ends on that year.
But God still save me from that, so now, as I celebrate my birthday this month, I would like to share my reflections and life advice for those who are on their 20s and trying to pull everything together in their life.
◆WE CAN FIND JOY IN EVERY SEASON (even if it’s a painful season)
Just like how you hated every summer because it is super hot, yet you got to enjoy going to the beach, pools, or camp. Or if you don’t like freezing winter because it’s hard to go outside, yet you got to enjoy, being comfy at home and wear your favorite sweater. I believe that even if we are experiencing the worst season of our life, we can still find hope and joy from it.
I remember when I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder, I was full of pain and fear of going crazy. I am not saying I enjoyed being in pain, but because of that season, I was able to know more about myself and my illness, I was able to communicate honestly with my friends and I was able to realize that they are always there for me even if I go crazy.
◆IT IS GOOD TO KEEP OUR NETWORK WIDE AND YOUR FRIENDS CLOSER
Though they said the older you get, the less friend you have, you still have to widen your networks.
Yes, it is wise to choose who you friend with and get close to, but it is also important to keep your network wide so there can always be someone you can think of if you need any help, and of course to help others as well.
◆DON’T GET JEALOUS WITH OTHER’s TIMELINE
So funny because I just realize this thought when I accidentally watched Kylie Jenner getting jealous to Kendall Jenner on KUWTK replay on Youtube. I don’t know what season and episode that is, but it was where Kendall is starting her modeling career and Kylie Jenner is so jealous about it and keep ruining things with Kendall, and that is when their father Bruce, told Kylie to stop being immature because her time will come too and just let Kendall shine in her moment. And guess what? Bruce is right! Kylie had her break when she launches her makeup line and she now has networth more than Kendall.
I’ve been jealous with my friends knowing that they are buying their own condominium, having a profitable business, investing in stocks, but after watching that, I started to celebrate and support my friends in their achievements in their seasons.
◆THE IMPORTANCE OF FINANCIAL SECURITY
For those of you who are fortunate or already secured with their finances, I admire you.
I used to live a lifestyle that I cannot afford. Eating on a restaurant often, traveling to somewhere I though would be cheap but somehow managed to spend more than my budget because spending is easier than saving.
You know what I mean, So reflecting on all my finances for the past few years, I just regret how undisciplined I was. But that’s okay, at least I learn my lessons and I am now motivated to improve myself and my savings!
Knowing that this is going to be the last years of my 20s, there are still a lot of things that are unanswered. I’m still asking myself who I want to be, what job do I want, how much money do I need to save, am I doing all right?
I can’t lie that I’m still pressured of the goals i set to to achieve before I become 30, and I only have 2more years to do that. But gaining friends, building family and creating this community, I am full of hope and excitement with what will be the future for me.